Cesare Pavese says, "If you want to travel far and fast, travel light. Get rid of all your envy, jealousy, unconsciousness, selfishness, and fears."
We all live life with memories, experiences, and stories that serve as the backdrop of our lives. We approach every new encounter that carries an invisible backpack full of everything we believe we need to successfully navigate life. If we pay attention to our bags, we find memories of joy, satisfying aha moments, financial successes, hopes and dreams. These are packed with a hint of sadness, heartache, loss, and fear. Even though our lives are filled with a cornucopia of experiences, we often discount the good and amplify the bad.
Psychologists have found that, despite the good things we do, negative emotions are processed in another hemisphere in the brain that is positive emotions. Because of this, negative emotions need more thought and more information to resolve. In addition, Professor Roy Baumeister, co-author of Bad is stronger than the good, has discovered that the bad have more impact on us than the good ones. It is easy for us to forget about the things we are in gratitude for.
To relaunch our bags and clear our invisible backpacks for fast travel, we need to unpack the negative credits, reckless attitudes we have come to grips with, and the "hurt me" stories. We have to eliminate how and many things that weigh us down as far as we can.
Start transforming your life and unpacking your backpack by doing the following:
Remember the Good that is happening to you. Five (5) good things change one (1) negative experience. This is an excellent time to start a Gratitude Journal or a "Daily Miracle Journal". List five or more things you are grateful for. In gratitude, there are no limits; there are no big or small miracles. There is only gratitude. In a year, it will have 365 – 1,825 "daily" miracles.
Brag's Lists. Create a list of things you have realized that you can boast. Try to list seven things. Keep this list readily available and review the week at a minimum. Your to-do list will remind you that in the midst of each new storm you are quite amazing and have already conquered many storms. When life whispers "You can't stand the storm." You said, "I am the storm."
Identify the Miracle. Each experience brings with it a litany of lessons and blessings. List lessons learned, skills learned. If you can't change the situation, use the lessons learned and ideas gained so you can change how you think. Asking how you can grow from this experience will help you find the gold nugget in the middle of what you perceived to be darkness.
Now your bags are lighter. What's your next step?
Get on board. Your dream is waiting.
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Remember, life is too short to drink cheap champagne.